Category: experiences

A really valuable part of this journey was the discovery that I have often sought the wrong type of companionship

Keywords: relationships , love , dating , moderndating , 30s , advice , wellbeing , funny , blogger , entertainment , tinder , blogging , mentalhealth

I’m very much of the anxious preoccupied attachment persuasion and love the idea of a partner so I cling on to them for fear that they will leave, even if I’m not actually that devoted to them

https://allswipedout.wordpress.com/2020/09/01/time-out

I even had to google “how to know if you’re in a toxic relationship” in order to come to this realization

Keywords: love life , boyfriend , breakup , bumpy , communication , feminism , feminist , incompatability , insecurity , relationship , relationships , toxic , toxic relationships , tumultuous , unhappy , unhappy relationship , vulnerable

I still believe he’s not a bad person, and the toxicity of our relationship was more about incompatibility than anything else, but our relationship took a huge toll on me. 

https://eloquententropy.wordpress.com/2020/08/12/the-tumultuous-road-to-ending-my-toxic-relationship

Remember that the only way to learn how to do something new, is by doing it

Keywords: coping strategies , family loss , grief recovery program , brain retraining , compassion , consciousness , grief , grieving process , healing , joyful , loveoneanother , loveyourself , mindfulness , recovery

Relationships need work. Consistent work. And it takes at least one person to lift the vibration of the couple back to its best. Often by the time couples are openly talking about these differences, they have “tolerated” the other’s low-vibrational style for a while and matched that lower energy themselves. It’s part of what has been called our “blame and shame” culture. Each partner will try to match the blaming or shaming of the other. This is so unnecessary, but often leads to breakups.

https://healthygrieving.wordpress.com/2020/08/04/joyful-relationship-creations

Not trying to control others to be what I want and not letting others try to be what I want so I love them

Keywords: Relating and Sexuality, Authenticity, Discomfort, Inner Guidance, Intuition, Mental Health

And this includes, most importantly includes SELF HONESTY. To know when I don’t resonate abd stop having sex with that person out of neediness.

https://themagicalandthemundane.home.blog/2020/07/23/allowing-others-sexual-freedom

So I spoke a boundary, and now I am alone, sitting in a hot mess of abandonment issues, regretting saying anything because I ruined a good thing

Keywords: philosophy , anxious , attachment , attachment styles , boundaries , relationships , writing

Is my boundary correct? I believe so. Does enforcing my boundary suck? Fuck yes. My boundary isolated me from an amazing man. Did I not compromise long enough? I don’t know. How are boundaries, which are supposed to protect me and protect others, this fucking painful?

https://bambooandbananas.org/the-downside-of-boundaries