Allow yourself to be vulnerable and lovable

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You focus on loving yourself, because without self-love, you cannot love another human. And you need to understand someone else does not complete you. As a person who would love a long term partner yesterday, I know this future partner cannot save me, fix me, or 100% fulfill me as there are too many wants and needs in my lifetime to be the responsibility of one person. That does not mean I need multiple partners. It means I am trying to apply healthy expectations of what I look for in a partner. I do not want a lust based relationship. And that has nothing to do with the sexual desire and intimacy that comes from physical attraction, mental attraction, intimate connection, what have you. I want love that is founded on something more than my mind and body telling me I have chemistry because I am pulled towards another toxic relationship.

When You’re Waiting For Love

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Saved By Grace

You, the one reading this, are you single? How long have you been waiting around for love to come your way? You may have had guys/girls in your life before, but they’re gone now. You’ve been alone for awhile now and you’re just waiting. Waiting for love to come to your life again, the waiting seems to drag on forever.

Waiting for love is like waiting for a pot of water to start boil, a watched pot boils for what seems like an eternity. When you feel yourself getting tired of waiting, just take it day by day. One day at a time. You’ll see yourself slowly start to turn your attention elsewhere, start living instead of waiting.

I’ve been told more times that I would like to admit that the one for me will be the exact opposite of what I expected. I’ve come to expect this AND that…

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Is it ever acceptable to ghost someone?

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This was a question I had been asking myself.

A few weeks ago, a friend and I had been discussing the appropriate ways to end things with someone you’d been seeing briefly. There were many factors to consider: how long you’d known each other, how many dates you’d been on, the timeframe that the number of dates took place, whether you met on an app or met through friends, and, of course, if things had gotten physical.

All of these culminated to one overall point: how much of an explanation do you feel you owe this person?

I for one thought that when you’re date or two in, it was perfectly reasonable to just never speak again if you feel things are not progressing/there’s no chemistry/whatever. However, after a certain amount of time, I felt a conversation would be necessary for appropriate closure. I couldn’t pin down a time frame…

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Talking about love at 19

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I’ve never experienced being in love because I don’t want to lose myself. And that’s a statement. I am young, I have fire in me, I want to achieve things and the way I’m saying it might seem self centred or selfish but the truth is I’m okay with being alone, I’m at peace.

There is so much pressure for people to be in relationships, to be with someone, and some people, because of that, can’t for the life of them be alone. They are lost and they do not who they are because they have always been with someone else.

We should learn to be alone with ourselves before we get into a relationship. Being alone is okay -don’t shame people for being alone and don’t feel bad for being single. Enjoy life the way you want – whether that’s doing what excites you, learning new things, being friends…

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